NOT ENOUGH LOVE

Not enough love

THERE ARE TWO MAIN REASON ENOUGH FOR FAILURE TO PARENT - CHILD LOVES HIS SON .
First , parents do not love themselves . Parents with low self-esteem had great difficulty in giving more love to their children than they feel for themselves .
The second reason , is because they often have a misconception that their children there to meet their expectations . One of the main causes of conflict between parent and child is feeling or perception of parents that children failed to " fulfill the measure " which would be expected to parents about what they are or what they should do .
Many parents regard their children as capital , as a form of property rights . They feel that their children behave properly only if they do and say what is in accordance with their wishes .
If the child's behavior different from the expectations of parents , mother or father respond to criticism without planning to do so , they attract love and approval from their child who stepped on the child's emotional lifeline .
Children feel unloved and laid the foundation for later personality problems in later life . All negative or antisocial behaviors are cries for help , an attempt to escape from guilt , anger and resentment that began with criticism in the early days of his life .

Do the important things

What we need to do is concentrate on the things that are most important.

The hard part is that these are usually the things that are not urgent.

Yet they are things that will make the biggest difference to our lives.

Why not turn off the television set tonight and read an inspiring book?

Why not take a quiet moment to sit down and write down what you want to do with the rest of your life?

Why not spend some time with your kids rather than with the guys at the bar?

Why not take a few minutes to read the Quran today?

Don't Quit

 “Don’t Quit” and remember that:

Success is failure turned inside out, The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you can never tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit, It's when things seem worst That you must not quit.

Role of Parents in fact

Role of Parents in fact

The sole role of a parent's most important is love and memelihra children, and to build in them a feeling of self-esteem and high self-confidence. If you are raising a child with a feeling very pleased with himself, if you raise them with full passion to go out and conquer the world, then you have fulfilled responsibilities in the highest sense. Conversely, if you give a child everything earthly value but raised in a state of lack of confidence and self-esteem, you failed in your primary role.

VALUE SELF EDUCATION

- VALUE SELF EDUCATION 

The bottom line is that you determine how and what you learn and how quickly you learn. Self-education is important beyond the classroom. In the real world of education themselves things far more than formal education. 

There are a lot of people with formal education are still struggling. Isaac Asimovfully supports this by saying that "Self - education, I believe, the only kind of education there is." A formal education is good, but only as a foundation. The sad thing is that many get stuck on a basic level. They do not realize that in order to finish the building they need to invest in some self education.

Therefore, do not be like them, who are called by James Allen as "want to improve their own lives, but do not want to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound." Dreamers realize that there is no better way to improve your life rather than to improve your mind. The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.

Knowledge, then, is a strong asset, and one that you should always strive to improve and build up in the pursuit of your dreams. Proverbs states that "through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge of booths filled with all precious and pleasant riches."

Settle it in your mind

 Settle it in your mind 

Analysing all the occasions when I even have experienced outstanding results in any endeavour the something you need that stands out is there was a certainty of success.

 
Remember this is a certainty that's totally oblivious to actually failure. Remember this is a certainty that is aware of that difficulties and setbacks might come back, however the final word finish is victory and nothing else. 

Remember this is a certainty that puts the mind at ease. it is still, small, however clear voice in the mind that says “everything will just be okay. 

” It's virtually as if god himself is speaking to actually you and telling you to actually “have religion. ” 

William Lyon phelps aforesaid :

“If you develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful beliefs give, you then will purchase to actually accomplish just about something, together with those items that other players are sure are not possible. ” 

ANYTHINK HAVE PURPOSE IN LIFE

- ANYTHINK HAVE PURPOSE IN LIFE

Everything has a purpose in life. Trees, ants, bees, birds and every living thing has a purpose to be. Each playing a small role in life as a refined architecture. Every good invention or tool that will either answer the question. Technology to answer the question of why - this is the answer to one's problems.Man, whatever you believe to be the origin of what they desire, is the largest of all the wonders of nature. Why do most of them in the end feel without purpose in their existence? Sages ask: "Everything, horses, vines, created for some duty ... For what task, then, that you created?"A large number of our existence just to exist. We live from year to year, as if life itself is our ultimate goal. If we get enough money and have enough to get it the way we would be content to face next year. Of course, is there a better life than we have? How can something so potentially miraculous and blessed while you just being here alone? What is your contribution to the world? Whether you are here to make a difference over the other?

FAILURE TO SUCCESS

FAILURE TO SUCCESS

So people who are regarded as failures are people who are very successful. The problem is they are successful on the wrong things. Successful they may be lazy, complacent, unimaginative, defeated and not take over their lives.
Nothing happens just like that. Success should be working on. Equally, failure to work on. I would propose that it takes just as much effort to succeed as fail. What determines whether you succeed or fail is where the effort is directed or applied.
The question is: "what?" If you fail, then you are a bad success to failure or success. So if you do not do something to be successful either, you do something bad to be successful. There is no middle ground. You can not do anything about anything. You both worked very hard to succeed or you worked so hard to fail.

KNOWLEDGE IS A GREAT ASSET

- KNOWLEDGE IS A GREAT ASSET

Knowledge is a powerful asset. It makes the difference between living in abundance and live in lack. The only difference between the directors in the company and the maid in the same company is their knowledge. Doctors know anything but the maid doesn't. That's why he gets a hundred times bigger than him.
This is what you know that will bring you success. This is what you do not know which will cause you to fail. Why then, do some and get the error? For example, many people are looking for promotion without obtaining the necessary skills and knowledge they need to be promoted. Many business people are struggling, but they do not take the time to learn about accounting, marketing and all that goes with doing business. It was like trying to drive a car without first putting fuel in it.

Time Management

Time Management

In Time management is the most frequently discussed goal setting. This objective is recorded and can be broken up into; project, operating plans, or other simple task list. The activities are then assessed and analyzed based on urgency and importance, priorities assigned, as well as the completion deadline. This process produces a plan with a task list or a schedule of activities. Routine tasks and repetitive given the frequent lack of focus and do not have the free time to work on other tasks that contribute to the more important goals.

This entire process must be supported by a set of skills possessed by workers, which should include personal motivation, delegation skills, organization tools, and crisis management at least understand.

Watch really your life

Watch really your life

You must set up your life with a bit more care and attention that will organize your work and life as well. Stop living by waiting on probability and luck that will help you to make happy, like being rich or healthy. The majority of people care about and pay attention to their life and work only half of the effort on the job and in the planning of his life, it could have been, but to be satisfied with the results can also only half of his hopes.

Merchandise is not visible.

Merchandise is not visible.

Knowledge intensive companies is a number of merchandise that is not visible and to simplify merchandise not seem that into two categories - Services --- to develop knowledge and understanding of the differences between them and the implications of these differences for the development of business activities and marketing by looking at each of these categories.

Knowledge as a commodity.

Knowledge as a commodity.

 Assess the concept of operations and marketing.

 • How can we create and maintain business relationships that we want?

• The areas of marketing which we have not explored, and how we can formulate the main points of a typical sales?

• How should we put ourselves in a form that our customers choose?

New keys for business development and marketing will continue.

• What knowledge is your business?

      Contemplate your business knowledge collection and ask yourself the important question:

• Are we using all the knowledge just to produce services, or offer for improving the knowledge we create value for clients?

If knowledge is the your "product" , know your business idea with the phrase: Goals that we have for clients is to improve competitiveness through: Development; Repair; Problem solving.

This can be achieved through the transfer of knowledge between you and the client, if the knowledge is your business, it means you are not marketing the services are packaged and ready to use, but you have to use your knowledge and experience to help clients to identify and formulate and then suggest solutions-solution.

You work through close interaction with clients, engage, collaborate with them on projects rather than running the operations, implement and adapt your knowledge to the needs and specific issues as diverse clients.

Results of your work may not be visible in the short term but it will take many months or years before you and your counsel clients implement and measure the results, it would have to be viewed by clients as an investment rather than a cost / fees.

Power your expertise.

Power your expertise. 

Realize the knowledge you have got could be a competitive advantage the fact is could turn out to actually be one thing terribly decisive success. 

Typically we hear ideas like : 

We utilized centralize communication and service nice performance. with the use of a 180-degree flip of mind, found the hidden wealth of knowledge. have learned how to utilised knowledge creatively to focus upon the state, the down sides and opportunities facing customers.

or

All associated with a sudden see that expertise is that the appeal that if used properly can attract the proper customers and candidates one of the best workers. seen that learning and imparting knowledge ought to really do the primary strategy. 

Of the second sentence is in fact very little research has been done on the management of relationships with customers.

Knowledge as a competitive strategy

Knowledge as a competitive strategy

All business activities are always dependent on the results, then any required professional knowledge is constantly developing new ideas, learn and implement new types of knowledge and trim any component that does not produce knowledge. 

In the business world, more and more complex, knowledge as a competitive strategy has gone beyond products and services. The more complicated a product or service, the buyers and customers must rely on invisible aspects in deciding to purchase, the customer will be the knowledge and belief of the seller's reliability. 

Based on the observation that success will be achieved by the company and develop professional skills and know how to deliver these skills by way of proving that the skills beneficial to the market and its customers.

Personal Development

Develop positive habits and skills is very dependent on the sense of self-appreciation, the higher the self-esteem, the easier it will complement and take advantage of all the positive skills they have. With a healthy self-esteem will increasingly find the meaning of life and feel a step further.

Handling issues

You'll be able to be hindered from creating progress if you really ignore your issues. may you be letting very little challenges grow into huge obstacles by not dealing at their side ? 

When faced with unpleasant things it's tempting to ignore them and not just deal at their side. The trail of least resistance is an enticing one and of course the effort needed to subsume the matter typically looks too immense, From time out to time it’s not such a lot that the matter is big other then which it needs us to admit one thing regarding ourselves or others that many of us only don’t wish to face. the difficulty is :

“You wont realize a resolution by saying there isn't any problem. ” 

Pay consideration to your lifestyle

You should arrange your lifestyle with rather more care and attention than you would certainly arrange your business plus your work. Stop living by waiting on probability and luck to actually make you happy, rich or healthy. If most of persons place simply half the effort we place into our jobs into planning our lives we'd be amazed with the distinction that would build. You'll be able to take that 1st step of making the life you need immediately.

useful

To achieve success alone is relatively easy, such as advanced mobile phones but not many people use is certainly no benefit. Therefore if a person's success is useful and beneficial to others that real success.

Self-evaluation by an evaluative and descriptive feedback

Self-evaluation by an evaluative and descriptive feedback

Evaluative feedback: Communications containing information in the form of a self-assessment of the recipient's feedback. This feedback is a socially clued in that can be used to re-evaluate themselves.

For many evaluative feedback can have a useful function through self-disclosure and feedback are then obtained, they can test their guesses about the extent to which people accept and love themselves.

The result can improve their self-esteem is the evaluative feedback recipient.

This feedback enables people to have and maintain a realistic picture of the abilities and weaknesses as well as the basis for self-improvement. If we can not know about the weaknesses of us, then we will not be moved to tackle and also to develop themselves. Not all people feel important or need to improve.

People who have weak self-esteem, in general especially wanted to be reassured as to determination of identity. They tend to look for in other people's responses to her, the clues about whether the person facing it praise or denounce him, accept or reject him. Narcissistic people seek praise, admiration and applause of others in their business that will not cease to dispel doubts about him as a human being. Rarely occurred to these people to realistically conduct a self-evaluation or self-improvement.

Evaluative feedback though of no use to someone, can often damage between the giver and the recipient. Therefore, it would be wiser and more beneficial if given feedback in the form of a descriptive feddback.

Descriptive feedback: more communication describing or outlining how the behavior of the sender or the recipient in the sender's self-inflicted or how you feel on the sender's behavior or actions by the recipient.

There are people who do not pay attention earlier evaluative elements, but rather directs its attention to the descriptive clues that may help them to know what they are. They are not so concerned about whether others can accept them or not. In contrast to someone who has a weak sense of self, then that person will tend to pay particular attention to the evaluative elements of other speeches against him, of praise or blame, acceptance or rejection. Lack of descriptive feedback that is useful for most, sourced on the difficulty to predict whether the person will receive the feedback will also receive a potluck, or whether he'll still be evaluative elements in it.

Useful feedback.

If we want to help others learn more about and further develop itself, it needs the things that have been described above as a material consideration. What do we know about the person who is the recipient of feedback, as well as a personal relationship between him and us, of course a little more grip gives way how to be pursued. But in general there are several criteria that can be taken to ensure that feedback is as a person's self-development material found its mark and is beneficial for the recipient.

Some criteria for useful feedback:

1. Useful feedback that is more descriptive of the judge. He just described the reaction of the sender so the recipient is free to use or not to use it. With avoid judging, then this will also reduce the likelihood that the recipient will provide a defensive response.

2. Useful feedback into account the needs of the recipient and the giver of feedback. Feedback can be destructive when he was just fulfilling a need or desire of one party only, in this case only meet the needs or wishes of the sender only and do not pay attention to the relationship of the recipient.

Self-evaluation by way of direct and indirect of feedback.

Self-evaluation by way of  direct and indirect of feedback.

Indirect feedback

Indirect feedback ; does not allow a clear interpretation. It often happens that there are certain things in others that we can not accept or justify, but after finding out why the person is so or had the opportunity to give an explanation to us, then our perceptions of him will change, which often happens is that the feedback we receive it gives us information about the giver's own feedback. Because it is so vague that indirect feedback, not so useful for those who receive it can even return for damage purposes of self-evaluation.

People who receive such returns must draw conclusions from the clues are less obvious without having the opportunity to explore further, so he can not know the true meaning or underlying reasons.

Indirect feedback, though not of much use but still plays an important role determining identity. Responses of others to our behavior is often also non-verbal nature, may contain information that is not possible they express more directly. But it was not enough for some people, they prefer to receive frankly feedback.

Direct feedback.

Direct feedback is much more useful for self-evaluation, but the feedback can also be useless if it is not a judgment or an honest reaction.

One of the reasons why there is no honesty, in this case lies in the imperatives of manners in which the association does not justify someone openly criticize others. As a result, among others, is that we do not believe anyone else will be honest with us, so it was a little difficult to be assured when others express aspects of ourselves are negative.

With the eastern manners in public life in general, which is often reflected as a ban, then the feedback is negative (usually a criticism) is often accompanied by strong emotions on the part of the recipient. Many people are just going to openly criticize others, when he was in a state of anger. As a result, we become accustomed to is defensive or reply, in response to the threat that we associate with criticism. Because we are emotional in welcoming criticism that we tend to respond to it as a rejection of all of us and see the criticism as something that should we deny in any way.

Self-evaluation by means of SELF-DISCLOSURE

Self-evaluation by means of SELF-DISCLOSURE

Self disclosure: let others know what you think about, perceived, or desired by us; This is the most excellent way and direct, though not the only way that can be used to make others to know him.

Often we are less confident to express themselves to the people who are important to us, because we usually assume there will be a certain reactions, although not necessarily a certainty about it there is on us.

This is why, why people do not readily willing to express themselves.

Self disclosure marks a healthy soul and at the same time is the way to achieve mental health. People who want to display the actual self certainly willing, even wanted to express himself, this required a "courage to show the authenticity of self".

"Only when I'm showing myself and actually behave as my true self, then there is a possibility for my true self to thrive".

"A person will flourish because individuals are becoming" himself ".

The development of one's self will cease when the person is detained or curb themselves, hence why we sometimes found "a child" in the body of an adult, more commonly known by the term: infantile or childish.

Pressures can interfere with mental health.

Someone who can not conform to situation/right is a person who does not let other people know her and therefore, on such person also no self-introduction and incapable of showing her authenticity, even he is trying hard to not known to others.

Efforts to make himself unknown people, makes a person suffering from pressure that may be invisible and not immediately known because the people assume the false appearance of the with present themselves to the outside world.

The greater the difference himself will be shown to others, when the others were considered as a danger for him. When the presses (repress) something, then that person not only distanced it from the consciousness of himself, but he's also distancing from others.

Just by way of expressing yourself, people will be able to escape from the circumstances.

Self-disclosure is one way that can be followed to make the true self, it is necessary for the health of the soul. People are showing authenticity itself is not necessarily a "fun", just maybe he will become a more gratifying when it is precisely not showing originality itself.

But he will not be able to evolve towards a more mature, if he does not know his real self. Self disclosure would be easier done in an atmosphere where there is an attitude to accept, appreciate and reaction that does not punish.

SELF-EVALUATION

SELF-EVALUATION

Every human being, including ourselves who is believed to have opinions about the value or price themselves, but some people feel that they are more certain than others and there are also some people who feel themselves less than other people, when in reality one's opinion of him is not necessarily completely true.

Most of us strive to maintain and sometimes even to try to change his opinion on the value itself.

Self-evaluation and re-evaluation of ourselves are the things that determine the degree of self-esteem.
In everyday life; someone first response / reaction to the actions of both are revealed in life activities. Often the response will contain a second; justification or praise or criticism it contains, may also acceptance or rejection. On the simple interaction is one of the keys of the self-evaluation process.

The development of self-esteem is based on the experiences of adults experience little future as a child.

The Experiences be accepted or rejected by others in the future environment is small, limited to parents in it, where the parents are very influential on the development of self-esteem.
In general, due to childhood experiences in terms of accepted or rejected, as a matter of influence in the life of adulthood.

Someone will form an opinion or belief that, however, the behavior shown, he still can not expect the affection and respect of others against him. This arises in the person's belief that he is not valuable or despicable, at least he doubted whether anyone else will be able to receive him.

Patterns of behavior that will be shown by the people of this group:
a. Not confident.
b. Shut down.
c. Rigid and self-limiting

Feeling that if people know everything about him, the opinion of people on this group that the other person will not be willing to accept or love him who brings distant consequences on people's subsequent behavior.
There are three kinds of effects, among others:

1. Arises a tendency to cover up or hide a part of her that felt not fully justified. In this way, when a person is in touch with other people, these people actually make contact only with the part of him is not the whole itself.

2. The feeling that there are parts of him that are not worth anything to be loved, causing a tendency to act as if he is a real not him. People like to wear the mask. It means to hide themselves and act as if nothing bad on her part.
Maybe these people reveal the bad parts, but not as part of what she actually rather as if a bad thing it is just part of the role played. When this was rejected, the person can feel at ease because he is not getting an unpleasant welcome it. This is actually a self-deception.

3. Skepticism about self-esteem makes people behave carefully, or look for some sort of protection or grip to rigidly adhere to a common social manners. Such people would not dare to apply spontaneously and express themselves as they are, because this will bring the possibility he will get returns that would confirm that he was not really acceptable. Thus the tendency for spontaneous void, but always on the alert and vigilant, always every time considering what to do in each new situation. Sometimes there are people who seem to limit themselves or abstain, whereas in fact it is only valid as was said earlier.
Fear of rejection in this case not because people are concerned there is a great desire to connect or join with others, but the main thing to avoid the possibility he pointed out that there is in him anxiety about inadmissibility by others.
Effort to maintain self-esteem is a lot of busy people and for some other possibility that he will be having an event in which he was not accepted / rejected by others, is a significant threat and therefore must be maintained, so as not to happen.

Several factors about Self-Evaluation.

a. Self-disclosure.

Maintaining self-esteem is that inhibit the development of self.
Self-esteem may not be changed if we do not test the correctness of our assumptions, that others will reject us if only he knew certain things about ourselves.

Testing the assumption of truth we can only work when we reveal our entire being to others, to know how other people's speech. Maybe later we will see that others remain to accept and love ourselves, even though we have opened the bad parts of ourselves to others. In this way we feel a stronger self-esteem.

But it is true that there can be anxiety about ourselves feeling less valuable just get affirmation from others as disclosed and can create self-esteem is getting a little smaller.

b. The validity of assumptions about the value of self.

For how much more likely that someone doubts about her value is realistic?
Because a lot of skepticism about the value of self that comes from one's childhood, then allegedly much less realistic. Why say so?
That it is experienced by a person during the yng very young age, while a child is not able to discriminate against any sharp experience, so he tends to hold a generalization.

For example: A child hit her, and then scolded by his parents. Therefore scolded on the incident, the child may be assumed that he is not loved. The event can be concluded that the child had any aggressiveness is a cause he does not deserve to be loved and seen as a "threat" not loved, when in fact no such threat. Therefore such a young age which can not see a thing broadly, it may even be owned by the assumptions that a child can be mistaken. For example:

A child thinks that his mother abandoned him because of mischief, while at the same time her mother is no need to go somewhere else that is in place, it is not because the mother was not affectionate towards his son.

Another reason, that one assumption about self-esteem are less realistic, are assumptions formed by reaction of only one or two people are usually the ones who have always been around the child, who is none other than his own parents. Parents rejected the possibility of a certain behavior, because they are indeed the parents can not be soft on the things that are different from what their parents want or are indeed people who are not able to show affection to his son.

So often less appropriate assumptions about her child to be loved, not by sight or the response of people in sufficient numbers.

IDENTITY

IDENTITY

In every human being there are the opinions and certain things are believed of who he is and how he is. Overall opinions and the things that he believed it was a picture / image of the person about him or said also as identity.

Philosophers in ancient Greece had a saying: "Know yourself". Was not as easy to explain what is meant by identity briefly. Erickson himself had difficulty to define identity; fact that its formulation is a statement; Who I am, What I am, and where I am.

Some sense of identity can be expressed as follows:
1. Identity can be interpreted as a personal core that remains, despite environmental changes.
2. Identity can be defined as a particular way of life that has been formed in earlier periods and determine which social roles that must be executed.
3. Identity is a result obtained in adolescence, but still will experience and renewal.

Formation begins far backward, namely when the introduction of the first self baby smile for the exchange of the first time sort of self-related to realization of to know each other.

In face-to-face relationships with other people, we are doing something for others and others it gave a speech on what we are doing.

In connection with the other person, we can learn many things about ourselves, and thus the things we believe about ourselves, mostly reflecting back from the view of other people's views about ourselves.

As for the things we believe about ourselves that are not the result of our interaction in face-to-face relationships, but is the result of comparisons that we make between ourselves and others. In this way we are nurtured in a variety of opinions about ourselves that are not tested with the returns of other people.

Human development can be considered as a result of trade-offs between individual maturation process and the influences of the environment.

To determine the extent to which environmental factors play a role is not easy.

Is A mistress better at organizing than the mistress B. We can not measure it with a weight or physical size, it actually depends on the determination of a consensus among the people around the second and last mistress measures or norms adopted and adhered to in the environment. Many of the things we believe about ourselves belonging to the social factors as above. It should be verifiable and confirmed by the opinions of those around us, among others, are: "the opinions about yourself, about who and what we are"
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Opinions about ourselves.

Image or picture of a person will be able to affirmation, when the speeches of others against him shows that other people's opinions about what and who he is matched with his own opinion. In circumstances where the environment is continuously giving emphasis on various aspects of the self, it will form a strong identity of self and steady. In such circumstances the person will feel no longer so need to find new assertions for himself and he is also not so feel the need to protect themselves from stimuli that would be threatening picture of himself.

He will feel more free to react spontaneously to his situation, he can present yourself as such. When the position itself is so strong, the individual concerned will also dare to listen to the payoff of who and what he is, and so he had the opportunity to continually test the correctness of the opinion-pendapanya about him.

When the affirmation of other people do not get, there will be a vague notion and doubts about yourself.
In a heterogeneous society (made up of diverse elements), it is not going to be easy to follow just the opinion of others, because of the opinions that there will also be diverse in nature. However, our efforts to obtain the support of the environment for our views also shows how dependent we are on the suitability of the environment with the opinion of our opinions.

To obtain confirmation of the views and opinions, often someone easily have thought about himself: he will prevail defensive and not be willing to test opinion on him.

Expand or develop self-identity.

Realization of yourself.
Realization means making real, realize, giving form. Realization himself regarding his awareness of himself as at present, with the expansion of self forwarded in accordance with the latent potentialities contained in the self. Doubts about the value of self-will cause the press and curb and hide certain parts of the self, and act as careful as if , in ways so that people deceive themselves and deceive others.

Realization  themselves with selfless:

"The key towards selflessness is the negation of self in the sense of selflessness, we will only find ourselves by forgetting ourselves".
People who are able to be selfless sure its worth as an individual. He has received his attitude so that he does not need to hide, or pretended to be cautious force. He can give a response / reaction openly, spontaneously and without contrived to situations or new people. This unselfish also implies the ability to observe yourself objectively.

One's first impulse, when you get a payoff kencaman of the environment, is to defend themselves, to defend themselves and to pay attention to self-interest. In that case of course difficult, if not virtually impossible to respond objectively returns and use it constructively.

Facilitate relationships.

Unselfish and self realization may occur in accordance with the value of one's feelings about himself in a relationships with others.

In such a relationship each of those interrelate to each other felt that they received, that they have made a positive decision about the value itself.

They feel each other that each of them has been accepted and others have received as such; overview for each of the partners will not be excessive.

Each one of them has the expectation and the other allegations, there is also the assumption that would not otherwise be apparent that each would not intentionally hurt others, a quality that is often called a relationship of trust to trust.

Personal Development 2nd

External Factors / Environment. Which would hinder the development of personal, among others:

• The education system is adopted;

Schools function is to develop the potential of the students, that it is probably not due to be implemented because the system was used less lead to the potential development or can be located on the Master's why that may be less aware or less live up to its role in developing the potential of their students.

• Response, attitude or habit cultural environment, for example:

In many modern societies is not the role of the husband and wife's role in marriage explicitly depicted as the breadwinner for her husband and as a caretaker and housekeeper for the wife. Women rarely nominated for leadership positions in the company or in the office, because it is not worth doing these jobs, while men do not have the traits that are very valuable for child care.
Number of factors-environmental factors mentioned above clearly not giving a chance for the development of one's potential.

Personal Development

Personal Development

The development of a person would be more meaningful, if the facts that influence can be better understood.
Understanding of these factors can help a person make use of the opportunity to develop themselves optimally.

The difference between the growth of development is as follows:

Growth: Changes in the structure of the body from infancy to adulthood.
Development: In addition to physical growth coupled with the potential for someone who is sensitive to stimuli from the environment that is constantly changing.

Potential is:

Having talent ability to perform or behave in samo way, particularly in a way involving talent or Intelligence, (Dictionary of Phycholog: JP Chaplin)

Abilities possessed by a person will develop and manifest in real life if it has the following 2 factors:

1. Internal factors or myself.
2. External or environmental factors.

In this discussion we try to peel the Internal Factors / Ourselves, where some of the barriers to developing a person is in and of itself, among others:

a. The absence of clear purpose in life, do not know what exactly you want to achieve in life.
b. Goal setting is just that easy life is easy, this is because the experience of one's life that caused him to have a low opinion or appraisal / negative about himself that he does not expect will be able to achieve a lot in life.
c. Someone who is less motivated, due to experience life above the individual concerned was not moved / motivated to exert all-abilities there is in him.
d. To a reluctance to examine oneself, while to realize the potentials that exist in a person's self-knowledge is required and a realistic view as well as on her own.
e. Interpersonal relationships, often individual relationships with other people in society take place in shallow / less familiar, where the contents of the conversation is limited to mild, superficial conversation that is running smoothly and no congestion then the parties to be careful in expressing their opinions and trying to not arise congestion because of dissent. If this superficial relationship continues, then gradually interpersonal relationships are thus considered as something normal, do not allow self-development can lead to alienation contrary oneself and to others. This is not in line with the development of their own potential and self to realize.
f. Willing and always look for the positive feedback, in the absence of negative feedback, a person has the opportunity to find out about her lack useful to drive the desire for self-improvement.
g. Not having a plan of self-development, did not mean to improve the quality of the quality of the positive side, instead always worried  be a negative assessment of the other party.
h. Not willing to face the difficult experience, then this is not the availability and the individual gets a chance to develop themselves.